And we know [with great confidence] that God [who is deeply concerned about us] causes all things to work together [as a plan] for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to His plan and purpose.
Romans 8:28 (AMP)
Suggested reading: Romans 8:28-30
What an amazing promise from our Most High God! This verse does not say that all things are good, but that all things work together for good in our lives if we love God. If we love God and have become one of His children through faith in Jesus Christ, this promise applies to us. However, this promise does not apply to those who are not sincerely following His Son, Jesus, and obeying our Most High God. Loving God by accepting His gift of salvation and following Jesus as Lord—and obeying God—are requirements for this promise to be fulfilled.
If you have suffered emotional, mental, spiritual, or physical pain, you know how difficult it can be to believe that any of those traumatic situations can work together for good. It can seem impossible. However, with God all things are possible. We must believe His promises. His magnificent plans will come into being in His perfect timing.
Let God begin to heal your broken heart and spirit by embracing this and His other promises regardless of your present circumstances. God’s love—through His Son, Jesus Christ, and the Holy Spirit—is more than enough to heal your heart and remove your emotional and spiritual pain. Then, He will use that past pain and trauma for good in your life and the lives of others.
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil;
For You are with me;
Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.
Psalm 23:4 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Psalm 23:4-6
Walking through the valley of the shadow of death certainly describes an emotionally and spiritually painful time for anyone. However, the Lord promised to be with us always—at all times—and that promise helps us avoid being fearful. This includes times when circumstances are traumatic and break our hearts. If Jesus Christ is our personal Lord and Savior, He is with us during every heart-breaking situation to bring us comfort!
Rather than seeking comfort from the Lord, people often seek comfort from the wrong things. They may use alcohol, drugs, sex, food, entertainment, pornography, gambling, or other methods to try to find relief from the emotional pain they are suffering. Those things may temporarily numb the pain, but they eventually cause more misery. They are not God’s perfect plan for healing broken hearts.
True comfort comes from the Lord alone! He is the only One capable of filling our hearts and spirits with lasting comfort and healing. There is no substitute for God’s love and peace in our lives. Although Jesus often helps us on our healing journey through the compassion and love of others who love Him, it is ultimately His personal comfort that we require during our times in the valley of the shadow of death.
The Spirit of the Lord is upon Me,
Because He has anointed Me
To preach the gospel to the poor;
He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted,
To proclaim liberty to the captives
And recovery of sight to the blind,
To set at liberty those who are oppressed;
Luke 4:18 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Luke 4:16-21
Jesus came to heal the brokenhearted! Jesus came to set the captives free! Situations that cause us to be brokenhearted include the death of a loved one, a divorce, any type of abuse, abandonment, rejection, accidents and natural disasters. If you are brokenhearted as a result of one or more of those things, you are carrying emotional pain in your heart. Your spirit can also be wounded by those experiences. It is common to stuff that emotional and spiritual pain without even realizing you are doing so.
It helps to talk to another Christian, preferably a trained counselor or minister, about the pain and trauma that you have experienced in your life. If possible, forgiving the person or persons responsible for causing that pain and trauma is also an important step in the healing process. However, unless the pain is released from your heart and your spirit, you will not be at peace. You will not be able to experience true joy as long as the emotional and spiritual pain are festering inside you.
True freedom and joy can only be obtained as Jesus Christ releases that pain and trauma from your heart and spirit. Ask Jesus to reveal anything that is keeping your heart broken and your spirit from experiencing His peace and joy. Then, ask Him to gently begin the healing process. Pursue help to receive inner healing and freedom if necessary. Jesus loves you very much and wants your broken heart to be healed!
I would have lost heart, unless I had believed
That I would see the goodness of the Lord
In the land of the living.
Psalm 27:13 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Psalm 27:1-14
Many people lose heart because they do not believe that they will ever see their situations improve. The pain and trauma they carry become unbearable and can even lead to suicide. The enemy can bring discouragement our way through numerous methods. One of those is when he whispers the lie to us, “God does not care about you. He would not have allowed this terrible thing to happen if He did.” If we listen to the devil and his lies, our faith will be weakened, our hearts can become more troubled, and deep depression can set in.
What does the goodness of the Lord mean? Some people are under the impression that it means their lives will be pain-free and problem-free. However, the Lord never promised that our lives would be easy. The goodness of the Lord is not based on our circumstances. The Lord is always good! His goodness can be seen all around us, but we must look for it through eyes of faith. Looking through eyes of despair and depression hinders us from seeing the goodness of the Lord.
Our prayers to see God’s goodness in certain situations may be delayed for various reasons, but we need to continue to have faith that He is working on our behalf. Psalm 27:14 says, “Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart; wait, I say, on the Lord!” We must allow the Lord to strengthen our broken hearts by standing firm in our faith.
For God did not give us a spirit of timidity or cowardice or fear, but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of sound judgment and personal discipline [abilities that result in a calm, well-balanced mind and self-control].
2 Timothy 1:7 (AMP)
Suggested reading: 2 Timothy 1:7-14
Fear! It is a huge problem for many people, including followers of Jesus Christ. Worrying about and being afraid of what people may think if we speak the truth can be an enormous hindrance to sharing the Gospel and to our calling to serve the Lord. However, the Lord told us that He did not give us a spirit of timidity, or cowardice, or fear! That comes from the kingdom of darkness.
A spirit of fear can be attached to the emotional and spiritual pain that we carry in our hearts and spirits. Fear is often the result of some kind of abuse or other traumatic circumstance and it transfers to us during the traumatic situation. As a result, those with broken hearts often struggle with fear. If followers of Jesus are having difficulty with a spirit of fear, pursuing healing prayer from a trained, Christian minister can result in freedom from that fear. As our hearts receive healing and Jesus releases the pain and trauma, the fear that was attached to it also leaves us. That is one of the godly outcomes and blessings of inner healing.
As followers of Jesus Christ, we have the promise that God has given us a spirit of power, of love, and of sound judgment and personal discipline. We must believe and embrace that truth! We should never be ashamed to testify about our Lord and we must deal with anything that interferes with our ability to do so. Guarding our faith includes getting free from a spirit of fear. When we know, that we know, what we believe and all spirits of fear are gone, we will be more effective in serving the Lord.
You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and mind and with all your soul and with all your strength [your entire being].
Deuteronomy 6:5 (AMP)
Suggested reading: Deuteronomy 6:1-5
Jesus said that this was the first and most important commandment in Mark 12:30. However, it can be very difficult to love the Lord with all our hearts if they have been broken into a million pieces. Those broken pieces of our hearts carry a lot of pain and trauma. They are very fragile and vulnerable to additional pain and trauma. The healing that our broken hearts need is available through the love and forgiveness that God has offered us through the sacrifice of His Son, Jesus Christ.
Any idols in our lives, things that take the place of God in our hearts and minds, can also interfere with our ability to love God with all our hearts, minds, souls and strength. Idols may include people, material possessions, thoughts and beliefs. To love our Most High God with all our hearts, we must ask Him to forgive us for having idols in our lives and repent by focusing our love on God and not on idols. The more we are free of idols, the easier it will be to receive healing for our broken hearts and to love our heavenly Father to a greater extent.
It takes a lot of energy and strength to carry pain and trauma. It can deplete us physically, spiritually and emotionally, which we may not even realize. Once we have received a level of healing and freedom, we can receive more of God’s incomparable love. As we receive more freedom and healing of emotional and spiritual pain and trauma, we are able to approach the goal of loving God with all our hearts, minds, souls and strength.
Therefore, since we have these [great and wonderful] promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from everything that contaminates body and spirit, completing holiness [living a consecrated life—a life set apart for God’s purpose] in the fear of God.
2 Corinthians 7:1 (AMP)
Suggested reading: 2 Corinthians 7:1-4
Our loving, heavenly Father has given us so many wonderful promises! He sent His Son, Jesus, so that our sins could be forgiven and our broken hearts could be healed. However, our holy, righteous God expects us to do our part and cleanse ourselves from everything that contaminates our bodies and spirits. We cannot live a life truly consecrated to Him unless we make sincere efforts to purify our hearts, minds, bodies and spirits from the things that oppose the Lord and His will for us.
Things that can adversely affect our relationships with the Most High God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit include ungodly relationships with other people. Ungodly programs or videos that we watch on television or over the Internet, books, magazines or other forms of printed material, music, and any other ungodly possessions are sources of contamination to our bodies, minds and spirits.
We must cleanse ourselves spiritually to be able to set ourselves apart for God’s purposes. Spiritual cleansing is an ongoing process and includes getting rid of anything in our lives that is a source of uncleanness. Destroying or throwing away all ungodly items that we possess is part of that process. Stopping the intake of ungodly visual or audio media is another step. Prayer for forgiveness and cleansing from past ungodly relationships and practices is essential, including asking God to break all ungodly soul ties. Effective healing for broken hearts and true freedom requires that our bodies, minds and spirits be spiritually cleansed.