…in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
1 Thessalonians 5:18 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: 1 Thessalonians 5:15-18
Give thanks in everything. This is the will of God. Thankfulness is something that can become lacking in our lives, especially if we are brokenhearted. The devil does not want us to be thankful. He will even tell us that we are crazy for being thankful when we are feeling deep emotional or spiritual pain. The thankfulness that the Lord wants us to express has nothing to do with pain and trauma that we experience. His perfect will for us is to have inner peace and joy from Him in spite of our circumstances.
Can we truly give thanks when our hearts have been broken? Yes, but it requires strength from the Most High God. One of our first reactions to traumatic situations may be anger—and rightly so. However, as we fix our eyes on the Lord’s goodness, and not on the pain and trauma, we can be thankful even in the storms of life. We can always thank God for sending His Son, Jesus, so that we could be forgiven for our sins and spend eternity with Him in heaven.
God loves us. He will never force us to give thanks to Him. However, it is for our good that we express our thankfulness to God. Everything that He has told us to do is for our good! In addition, giving thanks is a form of spiritual warfare. The devil hates it and demons flee when we thank the Most High God for His blessings in our lives regardless of our inner emotional pain and trauma. So, we must remember to give thanks to God. It helps heal our broken hearts and spirits!
I sought the LORD, and He heard me,
And delivered me from all my fears.
Psalm 34:4 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Psalm 34:4-8
Fear is such a powerful emotion. There are times when fear is appropriate and protects us. Fear regarding an impending natural disaster, such as a hurricane, tornado, or flood, will cause us to evacuate, or find a safe place to take shelter. If we “fear” the Lord—have an awe-inspired reverence for Him— we will honor and obey Him as a result. However, there are also times when fear can incapacitate us and totally disrupt our lives. That is not God’s perfect will for His children!
Normal, healthy fear is usually attached to emotional or spiritual pain from trauma, because traumatic experiences are generally very frightening. In addition, there are often ungodly and unhealthy types of fear connected to the pain and trauma. That ungodly fear will keep us in bondage. However, we do not have to allow any ungodly fear, or pain and trauma, to control our lives. When Jesus releases pain and trauma from our hearts and spirits, the ungodly fear leaves as well.
The fear of man is one of the most common tools that the enemy, Satan, and the forces from the kingdom of darkness use to harass us. Freedom from that fear and other ungodly fears is possible—typically over a period of time. In Jesus’ name, we can ask God to begin releasing the pain and trauma that has broken our hearts. We can then ask Him to remove the ungodly, unhealthy fear that was attached to that pain and trauma and ask the Lord to replace it with His peace and love. It is crucial that we ask for help if we need it. Jesus came to heal our broken hearts and set us free from ungodly fear!
Now may our Lord Jesus Christ Himself, and our God and Father, who has loved us and given us everlasting consolation and good hope by grace, comfort your hearts and establish you in every good word and work.
2 Thessalonians 2:16-17 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: 2 Thessalonians 2:15-17; Proverbs 13:12
When our hearts are broken, hope is often destroyed, or at least severely damaged. Proverbs 13:12 says, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick.” Without hope, our hearts become very sick, and we can end up depressed and despondent. Our Most High God has given us the gift of hope by showing us that this is not our final destination. We must base our hope on God’s promises, including the wonderful promise that we will spend eternity with Him in heaven if we have accepted and are following Jesus as our personal Lord and Savior!
We should be very careful not to place our hope in people or material things. That can lead to disappointment. If we continually hope that someone or some situation will change for the better, we may become discouraged when it does not happen. That can be avoided by focusing our hope in the right direction. Just as a laser must be focused properly to produce the desired result, our hope must be directed appropriately.
Our good hope must come from the Lord. If we hope in Him, we will be comforted in even the worst traumatic situations. He will always comfort us. People who survive the most horrific trauma and come through it the best are the ones whose hope comes from their relationship with Father God and Jesus Christ. Our broken hearts are comforted and restored when we focus our hope in the right direction!
Trust in the LORD with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct your paths.
Proverbs 3:5-6 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Proverbs 3:5-8
Trusting the Lord with all your heart is very difficult if your heart has been broken into a hundred pieces by some painful and traumatic event. Those pieces of your heart that carry the emotional pain often make you unable to trust. Until that pain is released and those places in your heart are healed, your ability to trust anyone, including the Lord, is hindered. This is one reason that pursuing healing for your broken heart is so important.
Leaning on your own understanding can result in making unnecessary mistakes that could be avoided by first asking the Lord to show you the decisions that you should make and the way to proceed. He wants to guide you down the best and safest path for your life. However, you have to ask Him and then obey what He tells you to do.
The only safe path in any situation is the one that the Lord knows will be best for you. To understand what direction you should take, you must first acknowledge the Lord. Accept that He exists and loves you more than you can imagine. Receive His free gift of salvation through His Son, Jesus Christ. Thank God for loving you and for forgiving your sins. Then ask Him how to proceed in every circumstance, including those that involve receiving healing for your broken heart. God’s love is the healing balm needed for broken hearts!
He saved us, not because of any works of righteousness that we have done, but because of His own compassion and mercy, by the cleansing of the new birth (spiritual transformation, regeneration) and renewing by the Holy Spirit,
Titus 3:5 (AMP)
Suggested reading: Titus 3:3-8
The renewal of our hearts, minds and spirits is a beautiful process of transformation for the better when we rely on the Holy Spirit to lead the way. Our limited ability to understand our need for change—due to the deception that the devil often uses to blind us to our sinfulness—is overcome when we trust God in every area of our lives.
We must let God do the work He wants to do in and through us. Our cooperation is essential. God will not force anyone to cooperate with His work of renewal. Although submitting to anyone, including God, may be difficult for those who have experienced pain and trauma, the level of true healing and freedom we receive is related to the depth to which we allow ourselves to surrender to the Lord. That requires courage.
Our hope for healing remains in the fact that God loves us with compassion and mercy. It is beyond our comprehension. That is why we must believe God’s promises unwaveringly and allow Him to lead us on the path to emotional and spiritual healing. Broken hearts can be made whole. However, we must ask the Lord to give us the courage needed for the healing process. He will do that as we take each step of faith, one at a time. The compassion and mercy that our Most High God has offered to us through His Son, Jesus, is an awesome gift that can heal our hearts!
He is despised and rejected by men,
A Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief.
And we hid, as it were, our faces from Him;
He was despised, and we did not esteem Him.
Isaiah 53:3 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Isaiah 53:1-3
Jesus was a Man of Sorrows when He walked this earth. He was definitely acquainted with grief. Besides what He suffered as He was beaten and crucified, Jesus wept when He saw the emotional pain that Mary expressed over the death of her brother, Lazarus. Jesus was rejected by many, betrayed by Judas and abandoned by His disciples. He was despised by the religious leaders of His day and is still despised and rejected by a large portion of this world’s population.
The Son of God, Jesus Christ, understands the emotional pain and sorrow that we feel in our hearts. He understands how traumatic experiences break our hearts. Jesus does not stand by our sides during those times without true compassion for us. He loves us and hurts with us!
The perfect will of our Most High God is for us to be healed and set free from the sorrow and pain in our hearts. He sent His Son to help us receive freedom from pain and trauma, but we have to take an active part in our healing. We must first accept the gift of salvation by confessing our sins and asking Jesus to be our personal Lord and Savior. Our loving, heavenly Father will forgive us when we do so. Then, we can ask Him to begin the process of emotional and spiritual healing that we so desperately need. Joy and peace will follow as we yield to the will of the God of the Universe.
For the Lord GOD, the Holy One of Israel has said this,
“In returning [to Me] and rest you shall be saved,
In quietness and confident trust is your strength.” But you were not willing,
Isaiah 30:15 (AMP)
Suggested reading: Isaiah 30:15-18
We definitely do not feel strong when our hearts have been broken by some horrible experience. The emotional and spiritual pain can be overwhelming. The darkness attached to the trauma seems to overshadow everything else in our lives. Quietness and confident trust are incredible tools that are available to us. However, they are two things that do not come easily to most people. Anxiety, fear and doubt seem to manifest more frequently in response to traumatic situations.
Too often, we try to take matters into our own hands and do something to numb the pain, or repair the damage that was done as a result of what happened to us. When we stop trying to fix things ourselves, we will realize that the Lord is the only One with the wisdom and power needed to intervene on our behalf. As we remember to return to our Father God and rest in His presence, our hearts can receive His love, peace, comfort and healing.
It takes practice and godly determination for us to turn to the Lord in quietness and trust in spite of the circumstances in our lives. The Lord waits with open arms for us to do just that. He knows that returning to Him and resting in quietness and confident trust will bring us strength. However, we must be willing to do so. The healing of our broken hearts and spirits depends on our obedience to follow the Lord’s instructions. We must return to Him, rest in His arms, and trust that He will keep His promises.