Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.
Romans 8:37 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Romans 8:31-39
Do you feel like a victim? That is not uncommon if you have suffered abuse or trauma. However, according to the Bible, you are more than a conqueror. That is your true identity, not the victim identity that the devil would like you to embrace. Through Jesus Christ, you can have victory over all the pain and trauma that has caused your heart and spirit to be broken.
How you see yourself plays a huge role in your emotional and spiritual healing. It is easy to become extremely discouraged when people mistreat and abuse you, you lose a loved one, or you go through some other traumatic situation. However, you must remember that your victory and healing come from our Most High God and His Son, Jesus. We are in a battle for that victory and healing, and at times, we get knocked down. However, we cannot allow the enemy to keep us down by forgetting what God’s Word says about us!
Decide today to stop thinking of yourself as a victim. You are a survivor. You are even more than a survivor—you are more than a conqueror! When times get difficult, draw closer to the Lord. Ask Him to hold you and heal your heart with His tremendously powerful love. His love for you holds the key to victory!
The Lord has appeared of old to me, saying:
“Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love;
Therefore with lovingkindness I have drawn you.”
Jeremiah 31:3 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Jeremiah 31:3-4
God loves us. He sent His only Son to this earth to show us just how much He loves us! Jesus Christ was born in a stable as an innocent, precious baby, but He died a horrific death on a cross—because He loves us. There is no doubt how much God loves us!
God does not love us like people “love” us. Human beings have a sin nature. Their love is not always godly or pure. God’s love for us is not based on anything we have or have not done. It does not matter what sin we may have committed in the past. Because He loves us and wants an eternal relationship with us, our Most High God draws us to Himself and forgives us!
People cause us emotional pain and trauma. Our Most High God sent His Son, Jesus, not only to save us from our sins, but also so that the pain and trauma in our broken hearts could be healed—not just numbed—but healed. True healing is possible through a relationship with Jesus Christ. His everlasting love paves the way for the emotional pain and trauma in our broken hearts to be released. Jesus came to set captives free and to heal the brokenhearted!
Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.
Philippians 4:8 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Philippians 4:4-8
The things we meditate on, or think about, can determine the length of time that it takes to receive healing for our broken hearts. The more we think about “lovely and praiseworthy” things, the harder it will be for the enemy, the devil, to guide us into depression. It is very difficult to be depressed if we meditate on God’s goodness!
There are many lovely and praiseworthy things in our lives that we can think about. Just the fact that we can breathe is a praiseworthy fact. We have so much to be thankful for and to praise the Lord for. Ask Him to show you things on a daily basis that are worthy of praising Him. He will show you. We just have to see things from God’s perspective.
It is a choice. We can either think about unlovely, painful things, or we can glorify God by praising Him for the good things in our lives. However, the Lord does not want us to be in denial about the pain and trauma we have experienced. Denial never changes our circumstances. The pain and trauma are real and have impacted our hearts and spirits. Focusing our thoughts on praiseworthy things will help heal our hearts and spirits!
A merry heart does good, like medicine,
But a broken spirit dries the bones.
Proverbs 17:22 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Proverbs 12:25; Proverbs 15:13; Proverbs 17:22
A merry heart—this is sometimes very difficult to even imagine if your heart has been broken. However, your broken heart and spirit can, and often will, lead to physical sickness if the emotional pain is allowed to go on without relief. That is what is meant by “a broken spirit dries the bones.” Dry bones are not healthy bones!
Proverbs 17:22 has a solution for a broken spirit—a merry heart. It is good medicine! One way to help your broken heart and spirit is to laugh. If you cannot think of anything to laugh about, watch a funny movie. Read a humorous book. Laugh in the face of all the pain you are experiencing whether you feel like it or not. It will help heal your heart and spirit.
Don’t allow your circumstances and the people responsible for breaking your heart to determine your emotional and physical health, or lack thereof, by staying in a depressed and hopeless state. What Jesus Christ did on the cross for us is more than enough to give us hope and cheer us up. If Jesus Christ is our Lord and Savior, we have the assurance from our Most High God that we will be rejoicing in heaven with them both in the future. So, let your heart be merry about that awesome promise!
Then he said to them, “Go your way, eat the fat, drink the sweet, and send portions to those for whom nothing is prepared; for this day is holy to our Lord. Do not sorrow, for the joy of the Lord is your strength.”
Nehemiah 8:10 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Nehemiah 8:9-12
To the world joy means happiness, pleasure, bliss, and ecstasy. Since most followers of Jesus have come from a worldly background, it is easy to confuse the joy of the Lord with those emotions. However, the joy that comes with knowing the Lord and following Him is far beyond the fleeting feelings of happiness. It is a sense of peace and contentment in knowing that one day we will be with the Lord Jesus forever.
If the enemy can steal your joy, he has won half the battle. The devil loves to lead believers into a state of anxiety, fear, or worry. That is one of the ways he gets our focus off the joy of the Lord. If our hearts are broken, we are more likely to succumb to these tactics. One reason it is so important for us to cling to the joy of the Lord in spite of our situation is that it gives us strength against the enemy.
If your heart is broken, stand up against what the devil has done in your life by embracing the joy of the Lord. Do not allow the pain you have experienced to determine your outlook on life. Be blessed as you rejoice in what Jesus did for you. The joy of the Lord is your strength!
I would have lost heart, unless I had believed
That I would see the goodness of the Lord
In the land of the living.
Psalm 27:13 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Psalm 27:1-14
Many people lose heart because they do not believe that they will ever see their situation improve. The pain and trauma they carry become unbearable and can even lead to suicide. The enemy can bring discouragement our way through numerous methods. One of those is when he whispers the lie to us, “God does not care about you. He would not have allowed this terrible thing to happen if He did.” If we listen to the devil and his lies, our faith is weakened and our hearts can become more troubled.
What does the goodness of the Lord mean? Some are under the impression that it means their life will be pain-free and problem-free. Nowhere does the Lord promise that. The goodness of the Lord is not based on our circumstances. The Lord is always good!
Our prayers to see God’s goodness may be delayed for various reasons, but we need to continue to have faith that He is working on our behalf. Psalm 27:14 says, “Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart; wait, I say, on the Lord!” We must allow the Lord to strengthen our broken hearts by standing firm in our faith.
He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High
Will remain secure and rest in the shadow of the Almighty [whose power no enemy can withstand].
Psalm 91:1 (AMP)
Suggested reading: Psalm 91:1-4
What does it mean to dwell in the shelter of the Most High? It means to cling constantly to our Most High God regardless of the circumstances in your life. To dwell means to reside, live, stay, abide, or inhabit. Too often, we can find ourselves distracted by the pain and trauma we are carrying, and we forget that abiding in the shelter of our Most High God will help heal and strengthen us.
Rest is so important during the healing process whether you are healing from a physical issue, or emotional or spiritual pain and trauma. We are the most vulnerable when we are tired and worn out. Therefore, we must take time away from daily routines to rest in the presence of the Lord. There is no substitute for being with our Abba, Father God. His peace and joy are a miraculous healing balm.
God’s heart must be devastated when one of His children is in pain and brokenhearted. He wants to help us, but we have to go to Him to receive His loving care. Nothing in this world can restore our hearts and spirits like spending time with our heavenly Father. Abiding in His presence also helps to protect us from the enemy who cannot survive the awesome power of our Most High God. Make time with Him a priority!