He is despised and rejected by men,
A Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief.
And we hid, as it were, our faces from Him;
He was despised, and we did not esteem Him.
Isaiah 53:3 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Isaiah 53:1-3
Jesus was a Man of Sorrows when He walked this earth. He was definitely acquainted with grief. Besides what He suffered as He was beaten and crucified, Jesus wept when He saw the emotional pain that Mary expressed over the death of her brother, Lazarus.
The Son of God, Jesus Christ, understands the emotional pain and sorrow that we feel in our hearts. He understands how traumatic experiences break our hearts. Jesus does not stand by our sides during those times without true compassion for us. He loves us and hurts with us!
The perfect will of our Most High God is for us to be healed and set free from the sorrow and pain in our hearts. He sent His Son to help us receive freedom from pain and trauma, but we have to take an active part in our healing. We must first accept the gift of salvation by confessing our sins and asking Jesus to be our Lord and Savior. Then, we can ask Him to begin the process of emotional and spiritual healing that we so desperately need. Joy and peace will follow as we yield to the will of the God of the Universe.
But at midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the prisoners were listening to them.
Acts 16:25 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Acts 16:25-34
What an amazing testimony! Paul and Silas were in prison and yet they continued to worship God. In the midst of terrible conditions, they remained confident in their faith and trust of the Most High God. The result of their worship was freedom from the prison and salvation for the jailer and all in his household.
Worshipping the Lord is an important part of the healing process for our broken hearts. We must express our love for the One who welcomed us into His kingdom through the awesome provision of His Son, Jesus. Worship is also a powerful tool against the enemy, Satan. It is a weapon of spiritual warfare that we can all use effectively!
As we worship the Lord in spite of our circumstances, the enemy’s power to keep us in the prison of pain and trauma is lessened. Worshipping God produces the opposite of what the devil would like to accomplish in us. It generates hope and courage in our hearts and spirits. Worshipping the Lord brings us joy and peace regardless of what things look like in the natural realm. It also shows Satan that our faith is real and stronger than what he plans for us. So, the next time you are tempted to surrender to emotional or spiritual pain, worship God. He is worthy!
For the Lord GOD, the Holy One of Israel has said this,
“In returning [to Me] and rest you shall be saved,
In quietness and confident trust is your strength.”…
Isaiah 30:15 (AMP)
Suggested reading: Isaiah 30:15-18
We definitely do not feel strong when our hearts have been broken by some horrible experience. The emotional and spiritual pain can be overwhelming. The darkness attached to the trauma seems to overshadow everything else in our lives.
Too often, we try to take matters into our own hands and do something to try to repair the damage that was done as a result of what happened to us. When we stop trying to fix things ourselves, we will realize that the Lord is the only One with the wisdom and power needed to intervene on our behalf. As we remember to return to our Father God and rest in His presence, our hearts can receive His peace and comfort.
Quietness and confident trust are incredible tools that are available to us. However, they are two things that do not come to most people easily. Anxiety and doubts seem to manifest more often in response to traumatic situations. It takes practice and godly determination for us to turn to the Lord in quietness and trust in spite of the circumstances. The Lord waits with open arms for us to do just that!
For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.
1 Corinthians 13:12 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: 1 Corinthians 13:11-13
Although we may think we see things clearly, we only see things dimly and know only part of what we will eventually know. A weather event of fog is an excellent example of seeing things dimly and in part. Even though we know there is more than we can see, we still cannot see it, because the fog obstructs our vision. No matter how hard we try, we cannot see things that are blocked by the fog.
Understanding the things that happen to us is very similar to fog. Sometimes fog is so thick that it is impossible to see more than ten feet in the distance. If we are in a familiar environment, we may know in part what is beyond what we can see. For instance, we know what houses are in our neighborhood, but on a very foggy day, we may not be able to tell what cars are on the street, or who may be walking down the road.
The same is true regarding the future and what we may ever know about the reasons traumatic situations happened to us. This is where trusting the Lord becomes so crucial. Believing the Word of God is not an option if we want Him to heal our broken hearts. Accepting God’s love and His Son, Jesus, is the first step in that direction!
They will have no fear of bad news;
their hearts are steadfast, trusting in the Lord.
Psalm 112:7 (NIV)
Suggested reading: Psalm 112:6-8
Trusting in the Lord can be difficult when our hearts are broken as the result of traumatic situations. Those with broken hearts have difficulty trusting—period. Once we are hurt severely by someone or something that occurred in our lives, we may be very hesitant to be vulnerable and trust again.
That is why it is so important to receive healing for our broken hearts. The very process that can help us is often avoided out of fear. Broken hearts are not always steadfast and the Lord knows this. We must strive to be steadfast in believing and trusting the Lord in spite of the pain we are suffering. His tender love will often draw us to come to Him for healing.
By asking Jesus to release the emotional and spiritual pain that we have been carrying for months, years, or even decades, we will be on the path to having a healed heart. It usually takes time for this to be accomplished completely, but being in the healing process is better than the alternative. Many of our sins may be pain-driven. Therefore, pursuing healing for our broken hearts will help prevent the devil from using the pain in our hearts, minds and spirits to lead us into sin. We must never give up hope of the possibility of being healed. Be steadfast and trust in the Lord!
‘For I,’ says the LORD, ‘will be a wall of fire all around her, and I will be the glory in her midst.’
Zechariah 2:5 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Zechariah 2:1-5
These verses refer to Jerusalem, but we can apply them to our lives as well. Our Most High God wants each of us to be surrounded by “a wall of fire” to help protect us from pain and trauma. That “wall of fire” would be a good wall—a godly boundary—surrounding us with God’s love, peace, and joy.
Godly boundaries are good walls. However, painful and traumatic situations happen in our lives that can break down the good walls that the Lord designed to shield us from evil. We tend to develop ungodly, destructive walls as a result. Those damaging walls can separate us from the love of God and His Son, Jesus. Negative walls can also prevent us from receiving the healing we need for the emotional, mental, and/or spiritual pain that exist inside us.
We cannot be truly healed unless we allow the finished work that Jesus did on the cross to penetrate the ungodly walls that we have built around our broken hearts. Jesus will remove the harmful walls as we receive His healing, and He will replace them with godly ones. Asking Jesus to release the pain we are carrying and replace it with His love will help us to develop godly, healthy walls, or boundaries, in our lives. We will then be more able to experience God’s wall of fire and His glory in our midst!
But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin.
1 John 1:7 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: 1 John 1:5-10
Praise the Lord! The blood of Jesus Christ cleanses us from all sin. However, we must confess our sins in order to be cleansed from them. We should never try to hide sin from the Most High God. He sees and knows everything we have ever done. He wants to forgive us for our sins, but we must first admit our sins to Him.
God also said that everything hidden in darkness will be revealed in the light. That includes every sinful thing we have done. We must be brutally honest with God and anyone who is trying to help us receive God’s healing and freedom. Secrets will keep us in bondage and allow the enemy, Satan, to continue to have his way in our lives.
It is a process to be healed and set free from past pain and trauma. That process can be hindered by our lack of truthfulness regarding sin in our lives. We cannot continue to practice known sin and expect to be set free. Confessing that sin to our loving, Heavenly Father and repenting of—stopping—that sin is required to receive the healing we desire. Then, the devil can no longer interfere with the healing of our broken hearts!