Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice!
Philippians 4:4 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Philippians 4:4-7
The fact that Jesus died a horrific death is nothing to rejoice about if He had not also risen from the dead. The disciples and His family were overcome with emotional pain before they realized that His promise to be resurrected was to be taken literally. Once they saw Jesus alive again, they rejoiced!
Since we have the blessing of knowing that Jesus’ death was not the end of the story, we should enthusiastically REJOICE! The more often we remember and meditate on the fact that Father God gave His Son, Jesus, to die for us and that Jesus rose from the dead, the more we will be able to rejoice. The Father and the Son love us deeply and eternally. No person can come close to that magnitude of love for us.
Our broken hearts are no excuse not to rejoice in the Lord. However, the devil uses the emotional and spiritual pain in our hearts to bring discouragement and despair into our minds, hearts, and spirits. That is why we must obey God’s Word faithfully and rejoice in the Lord. As we rejoice in God and all He has done for us, we are filled with His joy. That strengthens and heals us in ways that are unseen, but more real and lasting than the world’s solutions for pain and trauma!
But [in fact] He has borne our griefs,
And He has carried our sorrows and pains;
Yet we [ignorantly] assumed that He was stricken,
Struck down by God and degraded and humiliated [by Him].
Isaiah 53:4 (AMP)
Suggested reading: Isaiah 53:4-5
No more intense grief could ever be experienced than what Jesus suffered on the cross! As an innocent man, He felt the enormous weight of all our sins, sorrow, and pain while He was in the process of dying on that cross. We cannot possibly understand the level of pain, trauma and grief that Jesus willingly endured for us.
When we are in the middle of a traumatic situation, we often lose sight of the compassion and empathy that Jesus Christ extended to us by dying that excruciating death. He did not want us to die in our sins and be separated from the Father for eternity. Jesus offered himself as a pure sacrifice in our place.
Jesus died for your grief, sorrow and pain. What He did for you on the cross is an amazing and free gift. That undeserved gift is the basis for the healing of your broken heart. Jesus Christ came to heal the brokenhearted! Therefore, if Jesus Christ is your Lord and Savior, healing for your broken heart is possible. As you pursue and receive godly healing, the Lord releases emotional and spiritual pain and trauma—usually over a period of months or years. Do not get discouraged during the process. Continue to receive what Jesus Christ did for you on the cross until your heart is whole again.
Be still, and know that I am God;
I will be exalted among the nations,
I will be exalted in the earth!
Psalm 46:10 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Psalm 46:8-11
Be still. God created our hearts to be still, but for many of us that is a huge challenge. With the amount of distractions in our lives, we can easily forget to “be still.” Allowing God to minister to our broken hearts by spending quality time with Him and focusing our attention on His love for us is an essential part of the healing process.
Do we understand the amazing opportunity that the Most High God, the Creator of the Universe, gives us every day? Not only are we given the wonderful privilege of coming directly before His throne as a result of Jesus’ incredible sacrifice, but we are encouraged to be still in His presence. We do not have to do anything—just be still. It is the ultimate experience of refreshing freedom from activity. We must not be complacent or apathetic about this incomparable gift from our Father God.
God will be exalted! There is no doubt about that. Will we be among those who enthusiastically exalt His majesty? The time we spend being still before Him directly affects the healing of pain and trauma that we carry and our ability to exalt Him. Without having a close personal relationship with God’s Son, Jesus Christ, the healing we can receive is very limited. Also, to pursue our needed emotional and spiritual healing, we must embrace God’s instruction to “be still, and know” that He is God.
…in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
1 Thessalonians 5:18 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: 1 Thessalonians 5:15-18
Give thanks in everything. This is the will of God. Thankfulness is something that can become lacking in our lives, especially if we are broken-hearted. The devil does not want us to be thankful. He will even tell us that we are crazy for being thankful when we are feeling deep pain. The thankfulness that the Lord wants us to express has nothing to do with pain and trauma that we experience. His perfect will for us is to have inner peace and joy from Him in spite of our circumstances.
Can we truly give thanks when our hearts have been broken? Yes, but it requires strength from the Most High God. Our first reaction to traumatic situations may be anger—and rightly so. However, as we fix our eyes on the Lord’s goodness, and not on the pain and trauma, we can be thankful even in the storms of life.
God loves us. He will never force us to give thanks. However, it is for our good that we express our thankfulness to God. Everything that He has told us to do is for our good! In addition, giving thanks is a form of spiritual warfare. The devil hates it and demons flee when we thank the Most High God for His blessings in our lives regardless of pain and trauma. So, remember to give thanks to God!
I sought the LORD, and He heard me,
And delivered me from all my fears.
Psalm 34:4 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Psalm 34:4-8
Fear is such a powerful emotion. There are times when fear is appropriate and protects us. Fear regarding an impending natural disaster, such as a hurricane, tornado, or flood, will cause us to evacuate, or find a safe place to take shelter. If we “fear” the Lord, have an awe-inspired reverence for Him, we will honor and obey Him as a result. However, there are also times when fear can incapacitate us and totally disrupt our lives. That is not God’s perfect will for His children!
Normal, healthy fear is usually attached to emotional or spiritual pain from trauma, because traumatic experiences are generally very frightening. In addition, there are often ungodly and unhealthy types of fear connected to the pain and trauma. That ungodly fear will keep us in bondage. However, we do not have to allow any ungodly fear to control our lives. When Jesus releases pain and trauma from our hearts and spirits, the ungodly fear leaves as well.
The fear of man is one of the most common tools that the enemy, Satan, and the forces from the kingdom of darkness use to harass us. Freedom from that fear and other ungodly fears is possible—typically over a period of time. In Jesus’ name, ask God to begin releasing you from the pain and trauma that has broken your heart. Ask Him to set you free from ungodly and unhealthy fear that was attached to that pain and trauma. Ask the Lord to replace it with His peace and love. Ask for help if you need help, but do not allow the fear, pain and trauma to dictate your way of life. Jesus Christ came to set us free!
Now may our Lord Jesus Christ Himself, and our God and Father, who has loved us and given us everlasting consolation and good hope by grace, comfort your hearts and establish you in every good word and work.
2 Thessalonians 2:16-17 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: 2 Thessalonians 2:15-17; Proverbs 13:12
When our hearts are broken, hope is often destroyed, or at least severely damaged. Proverbs 13:12 says, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick.” Without hope, our hearts become very sick, and we can end up depressed and despondent. Our Most High God has given us the gift of hope by showing us that this is not our final destination. We must base our hope on God’s promises, including the wonderful promise that we will spend eternity with Him in heaven!
We should be very careful not to place our hope in people or material things. That can lead to disappointment. If we continually hope that someone or some situation will change for the better, we may become discouraged when it does not happen. That can be avoided by focusing our hope in the right direction. Just as a laser must be focused properly to produce the desired result, our hope must be directed appropriately.
Our “good hope” must come from the Lord. If we hope in Him, we will be comforted in even the most traumatic situation. He will always comfort us. People who survive the most horrific trauma and come through it the best are the ones whose hope comes from their relationship with Father God and Jesus Christ. Our broken hearts are comforted and restored when we focus our hope in the right direction!
Trust in the LORD with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct your paths.
Proverbs 3:5-6 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Proverbs 3:5-8
Trusting the Lord with “all your heart” is very difficult if your heart has been broken into a hundred pieces by some painful and traumatic event. Those pieces of your heart that carry the pain are often unable to trust. Until that pain is released and those places in your heart are healed, your ability to trust anyone, including the Lord, is hindered. This is one reason that pursuing healing for your broken heart is so important.
Leaning on your own understanding can result in making unnecessary mistakes that could be avoided by first asking the Lord to show you the decisions that you should make and the way to proceed. He wants to guide you down the best and safest path for your life. However, you have to ask Him and then obey what He tells you to do.
The only safe path in any situation is the one that the Lord knows will be best for you. To understand what direction you should take, you must first acknowledge the Lord. Accept that He exists and loves you more than you can imagine. Receive His free gift of salvation through His Son, Jesus Christ. Thank God for loving you and for forgiving your sins. Then ask Him how to proceed in every circumstance, including those that involve receiving healing for your broken heart. God’s love is the healing balm needed for broken hearts!