“If the world hates you, you know that it hated Me before it hated you.”
John 15:18 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: John 15:18-25
Jesus’ words about being hated in John 15:18-25 are very powerful. If we do not remember these words of His, we can be devastated if someone—especially someone close to us—develops a hateful attitude towards us. Our hearts can be broken into millions of pieces due to hatred that comes our way. However, Jesus experienced hatred from others and warned us that we would be subjected to that as well.
People’s opinions about us can change like the weather. One day they can act like we are their best friend and the next day like we are their worst enemy. That happened to the Lord when He walked this earth. People praised Him and followed Him all over to hear His teachings. Then, they turned on Him and demanded that He was crucified. Therefore, we must only be concerned about what our Most High God thinks about us and not allow hatred from people to determine our heart conditions.
If we are following Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior, we will certainly be the recipients of hatred from others at times. Those living in darkness hate those who live in the light of God’s kingdom. Understanding this reality can help protect our hearts and spirits from this tool used by the enemy against us. The love we receive from our Most High God and Jesus Christ is the best antidote for the world’s hatred!
In peace [and with a tranquil heart] I will both lie down and sleep,
For You alone, O LORD, make me dwell in safety and confident trust.
Psalm 4:8 (AMP)
Suggested reading: Psalm 4:6-8
Having a broken heart full of emotional pain can cause us to lose sleep if we are not intentional about what we allow ourselves to think about when we lie down to go to sleep. Focusing on our Most High God will help turn off the noise from the day. He has promised us sweet sleep in Proverbs 3:24, but we must do our part to receive that promise.
We must deliberately meditate on the Lord and His goodness to clear our minds and hearts before we try to go to sleep. The gladness that our relationship with Jesus puts in our hearts is able to supersede the pain and trauma that we experienced on any given day. However, the devil tries to encourage us to think about the things that caused us pain and sorrow. If we do not fight the temptation to do that, we will lose needed, restful and peaceful sleep.
Thanking God for all the blessings that He has poured out upon us is a great way to redirect our thoughts away from pain and trauma. Thankfulness is part of the inner healing process as well. We could never thank our Most High God enough for sending His Son, Jesus Christ, to take our place and pay the price that we should pay for our sins! Entering the place of peace with a tranquil heart before going to sleep depends on focused and thankful thoughts of the enormousness of God’s love for us.
Therefore, put on the complete armor of God, so that you will be able to [successfully] resist and stand your ground in the evil day [of danger], and having done everything [that the crisis demands], to stand firm [in your place, fully prepared, immovable, victorious].
Ephesians 6:13 (AMP)
Suggested reading: Ephesians 6:10-13
We have a very real enemy in the spiritual realm, Satan, who desires to destroy our faith and our lives. Standing strong in the midst of spiritual warfare can be difficult for those with broken hearts. That is why we must rely on strength from the Lord to enable us to stand against the tactics of the devil. One of Satan’s tactics is to encourage us to make bad decisions.
The emotional and spiritual pain that is carried by people with broken hearts can be unbearable. At times, we may feel desperate to do something to make the hurting stop. Bad decisions, including turning to alcohol, drugs, or other self-destructive behaviors, can be made as a result. Many people choose suicide as their answer to relieving the pain. However, although that may stop the pain for one person, it causes indescribable pain for their friends and loved ones. Nothing good is accomplished by bad decisions that are the result of a broken heart.
It takes a relationship with Jesus Christ and the strength of the Lord to stand during times when we feel like we are absolutely going to be defeated by the pain and trauma in our hearts and spirits. As we stand, we do not have to do anything, except trust the Lord and have faith that He will do whatever is necessary to fight the battle on our behalf. Once we have done that, the Lord will instruct us—in His perfect timing—regarding what steps we need to take to participate in the healing process for our broken hearts.
I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; I will take the heart of stone out of your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.
Ezekiel 36:26 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Ezekiel 36:25-27
When we experience things in our lives that are emotionally and spiritually painful, our hearts are often broken. Broken hearts can become hard like stone. Bitterness, resentment, anger, and hatred can grow in our hearts as a result of the traumatic experiences that we suffer. Those emotions harden hearts.
The good news is that our Most High God has promised to give us new hearts and new spirits! He promised to give us soft, pliable hearts in place of the hard hearts that result from trauma in our lives. God sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to heal the brokenhearted. Deep pain from traumatic ordeals can be healed by Jesus. The miraculous process of inner healing is possible through the incomparable love and freedom offered by Jesus Christ.
Traumatic situations include abandonment, emotional abuse, mental abuse, verbal abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, and rape. Those emotionally and spiritually devastating acts against us make us feel unclean and filthy. Only the Lord Jesus can truly cleanse us from the effects of that abuse, pain and trauma. As Jesus cleanses us from the defilement of trauma, and releases the emotional and spiritual pain from our hearts and spirits, we can truly experience newness and peace. Our hearts of flesh can be restored!
From the Jews five times I received forty stripes minus one. Three times I was beaten with rods; once I was stoned; three times I was shipwrecked; a night and a day I have been in the deep;
2 Corinthians 11:24-25 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: 2 Corinthians 11:23-28
The suffering that Paul endured was beyond what most of us have experienced, or will ever experience in our lives. If it were not for God’s grace and mercy, Paul could surely have died from any one of the horrific situations that came upon him.
In spite of all the traumatic circumstances and hardships that he survived, including beatings, stoning, shipwreck, weariness, sleeplessness, hunger, and thirst, Paul continued in his ministry to bring people into God’s kingdom. In fact, Paul’s deepest concern—and probably what caused him enormous emotional and spiritual pain—was for the situations going on in all the churches. He said that came upon him daily. However, God’s plans and purposes were more important to Paul than the cost to him of tremendous misery, pain and trauma.
There are also accounts of multiple times when the Most High God delivered Paul from unspeakable circumstances. However, God did not prevent, nor act to stop, every case of pain and trauma in Paul’s life. We should learn from Paul’s amazing example. God may intervene to lessen or even remove pain and trauma at times in our lives, but we must continue to love and honor Him in spite of anything painful or traumatic that may come our way. This is especially true when our hearts are broken.
If that is the case, our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the burning fiery furnace, and He will deliver us from your hand, O king. But if not, let it be known to you, O king, that we do not serve your gods, nor will we worship the gold image which you have set up.
Daniel 3:17-18 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Daniel 3:13-18
The faith of Shadrach, Meshach, and Abed-Nego was tested in an extreme way. They knew and confessed to non-believers that God was able to deliver them from a horrific death. The outcome was not up to those three men, but to Almighty God.
God is able to deliver us from any and all storms and trials in our lives. However, God’s perfect will may not always be to do so. Why? We may never know, but God’s lack of intervention in situations that cause pain and trauma for us should never change our faith in His ability to do the impossible. The three men who were about to be thrown into a furnace said, “But if not,” they would not serve or worship the pagan gods. As the rest of the chapter records, Shadrach, Meshach, and Abed-Nego were miraculously safe in the midst of that fiery furnace and survived the ordeal to the glory of God.
When our hearts are broken and we suffer terrible emotional and spiritual pain, we may be tempted to compromise our godly values to seek relief from that pain and trauma. However, that is never the path to God’s healing. He wants us to remain steadfast in our faith regardless of the suffering in our lives. Godly healing and freedom are possible and we must pursue that as our only option!
…who comforts and encourages us in every trouble so that we will be able to comfort and encourage those who are in any kind of trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.
2 Corinthians 1:4 (AMP)
Suggested reading: 2 Corinthians 1:3-7
Paul experienced incredible amounts of trouble and horrific hardship as he ministered and spread the Gospel. However, he understood that his sufferings enabled him to share the comfort and encouragement that he had received from God with others who were experiencing devastating pain and trauma.
Our Most High God is the same today. He will comfort and encourage us during slightly uncomfortable situations and in the worst traumatic times of our lives. His Son, Jesus Christ, paid the price for our redemption and healing. We are forgiven by God as the result of Jesus’ sacrifice for us if we have accepted Jesus in our hearts, minds and spirits, and confessed our sin to God. We can also receive God’s comfort and encouragement as a result of our relationship with Jesus.
However, we can only truly share with others what we have experienced ourselves. Once we have made the decision to follow Jesus, His incomparable healing is possible for our broken hearts. There is no comfort and encouragement available that can heal like the healing balm of the Holy Spirit. As we are transformed by the sweet healing presence of God with us, we can then begin to comfort and encourage other brokenhearted people. The love, comfort, and encouragement of God are the deeply healing answers to our emotional pain and trauma.