Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected; but I press on, that I may lay hold of that for which Christ Jesus has also laid hold of me.

Philippians 3:12 (NKJV)

Suggested reading: Philippians 3:12-16

None of us are perfect—no one has attained perfection! Unfortunately many people expect followers of Jesus Christ to be perfect and live absolutely sinless lives. That is not possible as long as we are on this planet and in these human bodies. We all sin and fall short of perfection. However, the Lord wants us to do our best to obey and honor Him in all we do. As long as we press on and do that, we are on the right path.

One of the things that can hinder us from staying on that right path is carrying emotional and spiritual pain and trauma. When that pain and trauma are triggered—come to the surface—we can act inappropriately for the current situation and behave out of God’s will. Of course, our Most High God will forgive us if we confess our sins and repent, but we need to realize that some of our sin may be driven by inner emotional and spiritual pain.

The Lord expects us to react to our sin to the degree of healing and freedom that we have already attained. If we have accepted Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior, then we should respond to our sin with sincere, godly sorrow and repentance. Knowing that some of our sin may be the result of inner emotional and spiritual pain and trauma should cause us to seek the healing we need to release that pain and trauma. We can receive the healing that Jesus is capable of providing to us if we face our brokenness. He wants to heal our broken hearts!


JUDGES 16:17

… he told her all his heart, and said to her, “No razor has ever come upon my head, for I have been a Nazirite to God from my mother’s womb. If I am shaven, then my strength will leave me, and I shall become weak, and be like any other man.”

Judges 16:17 (NKJV)

Suggested reading: Judges 16:16-18

Samson finally told Delilah the truth about the source of his great strength. He was a Nazirite and his unshaven hair was the outer representation of his consecration to God. That was the source of his strength and he knew he would be weak, like any other man, without it.

Do we understand how important it is for us to consecrate ourselves to Almighty God? We pray and ask Him for many things, but are we truly dedicated and devoted to the One True God? Just as Samson’s strength came from his consecration to the Lord, our sincere dedication to Almighty God gives us strength. That strength enables us to endure, and have victory over, the painful and traumatic events in our lives.

When our hearts are broken, we can feel very weak and almost unable to function, or go on. Those are the times when we must cling to the Lord and dedicate ourselves to Him moment by moment. The strength we need in our everyday lives, and especially in times of trials, is only possible if we have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. That relationship will get us through anything! However, that does not mean it will be easy. Some days will be more difficult than others, but knowing that Jesus is with us will strengthen our hearts, minds and spirits.

JOHN 3:20

For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed.

John 3:20 (NKJV)

Suggested reading: John 3:17-21

Jesus came to give us the opportunity to be saved from our sins. He also came to heal the brokenhearted. Hearts are often broken due to sin that people committed that caused us great emotional pain. Anyone practicing sin is practicing evil. Those who are in the habit of practicing evil avoid the light of Jesus Christ and prefer to remain in the darkness. They do not want their sins exposed.

That is how the devil keeps people in bondage. He tells them that they need to keep their sinful behavior hidden. The more that is done, the easier it becomes to hide sin and pretend that the evil is not there. Hiding sin takes a lot of energy and it steals joy and peace. Our Most High God does not want us to stay in bondage to sin, the devil, or the kingdom of darkness. The Lord wants us to receive the freedom He offers through His Son, Jesus Christ. 

Inner healing for emotional pain and trauma can only be accomplished when we are willing to confess our sin, ask the Lord for forgiveness, and change our behavior. We must do all we can to receive freedom and healing by receiving cleansing through the blood of Jesus. Fear of consequences for our sins can cause us to try to cover them up and hide in the darkness. However, if we are children of the Most High God, we must embrace truth and strive to live in the light of God’s will. Only then will we be able to be set free from the past and receive healing for our broken hearts.

JUDGES 16:15

 Then she said to him, “How can you say, ‘I love you,’ when your heart is not with me? You have mocked me these three times, and have not told me where your great strength lies.

Judges 16:15 (NKJV)

Suggested reading: Judges 16:13-15

This is a deep and serious question. “How can you say, ‘I love you,’ when your heart is not with me?” Delilah was asking Samson this, because he had not been honest with her and told her the source of his great strength. When we say, “I love you,” to another person or to the Lord, it must be backed up by our actions, or they are just empty words.

Many of our hearts have been broken as a result of people in our lives who told us they loved us, but did not treat us like they loved us. The emotional pain and trauma that is caused by insincere words, lies, and broken promises can be devastating and stay within our hearts and spirits for decades. The good news is that Jesus Christ came to heal the brokenhearted and He can release the pain and heal us like no one else in existence.

We must be very careful—when we tell our Father God that we love Him—that those are not empty words. He knows the difference! Saying that we love Jesus must be proven by the way that we live our lives. We should do our very best to follow God’s Word and obey His commandments on a daily basis. Our sincere love for and obedience to the Lord is essential in the healing of our broken hearts!


 Let no one deceive you with empty arguments [that encourage you to sin], for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience [those who habitually sin].

Ephesians 5:6 (AMP)

Suggested reading: Ephesians 5:1-7

It is very interesting that, in the verses prior to this one, we are instructed to be imitators of God and walk continually in love. However, that command is followed but a stern limitation. We are strongly warned to  never be immoral, impure, or greedy people. The Lord tells us that such people have no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. The One True God does not want us to compromise our integrity for the sake of loving someone! 

Those with broken hearts can, and often do, compromise their integrity to avoid additional emotional or spiritual pain. It may happen as a result of being manipulated by someone who is causing that pain on an ongoing basis. We must examine our circumstances through the lens of the Word of God to determine if we have allowed ourselves to do things that are contrary to Scripture just to please other people. If we have done so, we must repent and change our behavior.

This verse makes it extremely clear that the wrath of God will come upon those who habitually sin. We cannot allow others to deceive us and encourage us to sin along with them and expect our Most High God to look the other way. Walking in love is not enabling others to continue in habitual sin, nor is it allowing ourselves to sin to avoid more pain and trauma. As we pursue and receive inner healing for emotional and spiritual pain, we will be less likely to be deceived and become increasingly able to stand firm in godliness.


And the lords of the Philistines came up to her and said to her, “Entice him, and find out where his great strength lies, and by what means we may overpower him, that we may bind him to afflict him; and every one of us will give you eleven hundred pieces of silver.”

Judges 16:5 (NKJV)

Suggested reading: Judges 16:1-6

Delilah was instructed to entice Samson in order to find out the source of his great strength. Samson’s enemies wanted to bind him to afflict him. Synonyms for afflict are trouble, bother, worry, upset, distress and make miserable. They had nothing but evil plans for Samson. They wanted to cause him severe physical and mental distress by discovering the secret to his strength and taking it away from him!

The devil is the enemy of followers of the Most High God and His Son, Jesus Christ. Satan wants to take away strength from Jesus’ followers and cause us physical and mental distress in the process. He wants to afflict us! When emotional, physical and/or spiritual pain and trauma come our way, we must hold on tightly to our faith, the source of our strength. If our hearts are broken as the result of that pain and trauma, we need to run to the One True God—never run away from Him. He is our strength and the devil knows that. We must never allow the devil or his army of evil beings to overpower us!

A broken heart can cause us to feel very weak and vulnerable, but Jesus came to heal the brokenhearted. Accepting Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior and following His example for the rest of our lives will give us the strength we need to resist temptations from the kingdom of darkness. Pursuing healing for our broken hearts is one way to fight the spiritual warfare that every believer encounters.

JOHN 4:23

But a time is coming and is already here when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit [from the heart, the inner self] and in truth; for the Father seeks such people to be His worshipers.

John 4:23 (AMP)

Suggested reading: John 4:23-24

Jesus said that our heavenly Father seeks people who will worship Him in spirit—from the heart and inner self—and in truth. If our hearts and/or spirits are broken as the result of emotional or spiritual pain and trauma, it can be very difficult to worship the Lord. This is one reason we should do all we can to pursue and receive biblical, emotional and spiritual healing.

Truth is not relative! It does not change, nor is it dependent on our circumstances. One example of truth is that God loves us. When some emotionally painful event occurs, God still loves us. If we make an ungodly choice, God still loves us. “For God so greatly loved and dearly prized the world, that He even gave His One and only begotten Son, so that whoever believes and trusts in Him as Savior shall not perish, but have eternal life” (John 3:16, Amplified Bible). That is the truth! 

Worshipping our awesome God in truth is essential for us to obtain real freedom, peace and joy in our lives. Our Most High God sent Jesus so that we have the opportunity to spend eternity with Him. Jesus also came to heal the brokenhearted. Inner healing from emotional and spiritual pain and trauma is a process. As we receive higher levels of freedom in our hearts and spirits, our worship will become more honest and increasingly pleasing to the Lord.