Have I therefore become your enemy because I tell you the truth?
Galatians 4:16 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Galatians 4:8-16
Paul did his best to minister to the Galatians, and they loved and accepted him in spite of his imperfections. However, they ended up seeing him as their enemy, because he told them the truth! They loved Paul at one time, but they turned against him when he was honest and told them things that were true, but that they did not want to hear.
One of the things that can cause our hearts to be broken is when people reject us after we tell them the truth. The pain of that rejection is much worse when the person is a close friend or family member. They can view us as their enemy, just as the Galatians believed Paul was their enemy. The emotional pain and trauma that we suffer as a result can be devastating.
There can be many consequences to speaking the truth. We may lose friends, and even suffer broken relationships with family members, as a result. However, as long as the Lord directed our words and actions, we can take comfort in knowing that we did the right thing. We are never responsible for others’ reactions to the truth, only for our obedience to the Most High God. If our hearts are broken as the result of obeying the Lord, we can go to Him for emotional and spiritual healing. Jesus came to heal the brokenhearted. He wants to release the pain and trauma in our hearts and spirits. We must participate in that healing in any way that our heavenly Father directs us to do so. He loves us and will give us His comfort and peace, because we obeyed Him and spoke the truth.
Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
1 John 2:15 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: 1 John 2:15-17
Once we accept the free gift of salvation offered by the Most High God through His Son, Jesus, we have ongoing choices that will be presented to us during our lifetimes, usually on a daily basis. We can either choose the world and the things of the world, or we can choose to live according to the Word of God. This verse states that we cannot love God, and love the world and the things in it. We must choose God.
If we are going to be sincere believers and follow God’s ways, we must not love the world. The world represents the domain of evil where Satan and his helpers operate. We live in the world, but we must spiritually separate ourselves from it, and focus on God, His ways and His promises. Loving the world and the things in it only leads to a broken heart and spiritual death. Lot’s wife died because she turned back to look at what she was leaving behind (Genesis 19:26). Her heart was not focused on obeying God and she paid the ultimate price as a result.
Many Christians fall back into their old ways of living in the world when they suffer traumatic events, which results in tremendous spiritual consequences. When our hearts are broken, we can be particularly vulnerable to the temptation to ease our pain according to the world’s methods including the use of drugs, alcohol, sex, pornography, or ungodly treatment/therapy. However, true healing and freedom from emotional pain and trauma only come through the love, peace and joy that Jesus came to offer us—not through the world or the things in it!
Therefore if anyone is in Christ [that is, grafted in, joined to Him by faith in Him as Savior], he is a new creature [reborn and renewed by the Holy Spirit]; the old things [the previous moral and spiritual condition] have passed away. Behold, new things have come [because spiritual awakening brings a new life].
2 Corinthians 5:17 (AMP)
Suggested reading: 2 Corinthians 5:15-17
If anyone is in Christ… What does that mean? The Amplified version says that it means to be grafted in, joined to Him by faith in Him as Savior. If we are joined to Jesus Christ when we accept Him as our Lord and Savior, there will be evidence that we have done so. New things come, because spiritual awakening brings new life. If we do not repent and our old ways of living do not become a thing of the past, then we cannot claim to be joined to Christ!
Our old ways of living before we received the truth of God’s gift of forgiveness through Jesus Christ do not normally change overnight when we make the decision to live for the Lord. However, new, godly character, behavior, perspective and desires will develop over a period of time as we draw closer to the Lord. The Lord is so gracious and He knows our human limitations and nature. However, He expects us to do our best to repent and become more like Jesus.
Those who are brokenhearted as the result of tremendous emotional pain and trauma often struggle with changing old behavior. That is due in part to the suppressed emotional pain in our hearts and spirits that surfaces when it is triggered by new traumatic circumstances, or by situations that are similar to past traumatic events. In His incomparable goodness and love for us, God provided the opportunity for our hearts to be healed and set free through Jesus. Healed hearts are new creations!
So teach us to number our days,
That we may gain a heart of wisdom.
Psalm 90:12 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Psalm 90:10-17
Lord, teach us to number our days. Life is so short when compared to eternity! We must be mindful of the brevity of life as each new day begins. Wasting time is not honoring to the Lord. The enemy, Satan, will try to distract us away from fulfilling our God-given destiny in any way he can be successful. When emotional pain and trauma break our hearts, it can take a significant amount of energy and time to work through the consequences. Satan wants us to wallow in self-pity and depression, because if we do that, we cannot receive the heart of wisdom that the Lord desires for us.
The Most High God wants us to learn from the painful experiences we suffer and to become stronger in Him. That is why we must seek healing for the broken condition of our hearts as soon as we recover from the initial shock and are able to face the reality of the traumatic situations. A healed heart is not perfect by any means, but it is certainly a heart of more wisdom than it was before we endured the trauma.
God’s mercy is amazing! It enables us to be forgiven for our sins and to be in relationship with the Creator of the Universe through the birth, death and resurrection of His Son, Jesus. The Lord’s mercy also allows us to rejoice and be glad all our days! However, we must take the steps necessary to obtain freedom from past pain and trauma so that we can have healed, wise hearts. The beauty of the Lord our God will be upon us, and establish the work of our hands, as we gain a heart of wisdom!
Now may the God who gives endurance and who supplies encouragement grant that you be of the same mind with one another according to Christ Jesus,
Romans 15:5 (AMP)
Suggested reading: Romans 15:1-6
Jesus came to heal the brokenhearted and He often does that through His followers. We are instructed in God’s Word to comfort, encourage and help strengthen the weaker believers among us. That does not mean that we should enable them to wallow in self-pity or despair, but we can help lift them out of negative emotions if they are willing and want our help. They need to be ready to receive from the Lord and us. Some people who have suffered tremendous emotional or spiritual trauma need time to get to the point where they are ready to admit that they need help.
Jesus Christ came to provide forgiveness for and freedom from our sins, but we have to accept God’s free gift of salvation. It is the same with inner healing. The Lord will allow us to go around the mountain of emotional pain as many times as necessary in order for us to finally submit to His plan for healing our broken hearts. Our Most High God will never override our free wills!
God alone can give us the endurance we need to go through our own healing process and to help others. As we reach out to those with broken hearts, our Most High God can encourage and strengthen them with His incomparable love, peace and joy. Hope can be restored and God’s promises can be embraced when we show the love of Jesus to those wounded by trials and traumatic circumstances in life. Healing of emotional and spiritual pain and trauma is not only possible, but it will be accomplished by the Lord through our compassion and His perfect love. Jesus will release pain and heal hearts as we allow Him to minister God’s love through us.
Do not be deceived: “Evil company corrupts good habits.”
1 Corinthians 15:33 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: 1 Corinthians 15:33-34
When our hearts are broken, we may seek companionship with almost anyone just to try to ease our pain. However, people who are not following Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior can lead us into sin and cause our own morals and convictions to be corrupted. We must be very careful to only pursue close relationships with like-minded, godly people.
The emotional pain and trauma in our hearts and spirits makes us vulnerable and easily influenced at times. That is why we should do all we can to draw closer to our Most High God. As we become more familiar with His character and will by reading His Word, we will be strengthened to avoid the traps that the enemy, Satan, sets for us. One of his common traps is to encourage us to develop intimate relationships with ungodly people with the hope that we can help them change their ungodly way of life. However, the opposite can happen. Our convictions to live a godly life can be compromised even though our intentions were to help the other person.
Guarding our hearts and spirits must be a priority when we are on a healing journey. The inner healing process can take months or years. When emotional pain is triggered during the process, it requires determination on our part to stay as close to the Lord as possible. We cannot allow ungodly relationships to interfere with our needed healing. Satan does not want our broken hearts to be healed, because healed believers are able to fulfill their God-given destiny more effectively. The devil will do everything he can to try to interfere with the healing process, including using ungodly people in our lives to do so. We must not be deceived. Evil company corrupts good habits!
There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.
Romans 8:1 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Romans 8:1-11
This verse is often misquoted, leaving out the condition that we live according to God’s will and not our own. That implies that there is condemnation for those who chose to live according to their fleshly desires, rather than to live according to God’s Word. The Holy Spirit always guides us to make godly choices, but we still have free wills and can ignore Him and the Lord’s will for our lives.
Being spiritually minded—and living according to the Holy Spirit’s directions—brings us life and peace. However, acting upon our own thoughts and desires causes negative, and often damaging, results and does not please our Most High God. There is so much joy in obeying the Lord in every area of our lives. Our godly choices are the proof that we love God and that we are one of His children.
Having a broken heart can be the result of making ungodly choices either because we did not know the Lord at the time, or because we chose to disobey Him. If our decisions contributed to our broken hearts, we should ask our loving, heavenly Father for forgiveness in Jesus’ name. The blood of Jesus will cleanse us from our sins if we have sincerely embraced Him as our Lord and Savior. Living according to the Spirit and not according to fleshly desires is the evidence that we have a genuine relationship with Jesus Christ as our Lord. We can receive healing for our broken hearts as we continue to live in Him!