Now may the God who gives endurance and who supplies encouragement grant that you be of the same mind with one another according to Christ Jesus,
Romans 15:5 (AMP)
Suggested reading: Romans 15:1-6
Jesus came to heal the brokenhearted and He often does that through His followers. We are instructed in God’s Word to comfort, encourage and help strengthen the weaker believers among us. That does not mean that we should enable them to wallow in self-pity or despair, but we can help lift them out of negative emotions if they are willing and want our help. They need to be ready to receive from the Lord and us. Some people who have suffered tremendous emotional or spiritual trauma need time to get to the point where they are ready to admit that they need help.
Jesus Christ came to provide forgiveness for and freedom from our sins, but we have to accept God’s free gift of salvation. It is the same with inner healing. The Lord will allow us to go around the mountain of emotional pain as many times as necessary in order for us to finally submit to His plan for healing our broken hearts. Our Most High God will never override our free wills!
God alone can give us the endurance we need to go through our own healing process and to help others. As we reach out to those with broken hearts, our Most High God can encourage and strengthen them with His incomparable love, peace and joy. Hope can be restored and God’s promises can be embraced when we show the love of Jesus to those wounded by trials and traumatic circumstances in life. Healing of emotional and spiritual pain and trauma is not only possible, but it will be accomplished by the Lord through our compassion and His perfect love. Jesus will release pain and heal hearts as we allow Him to minister God’s love through us.
Do not be deceived: “Evil company corrupts good habits.”
1 Corinthians 15:33 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: 1 Corinthians 15:33-34
When our hearts are broken, we may seek companionship with almost anyone just to try to ease our pain. However, people who are not following Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior can lead us into sin and cause our own morals and convictions to be corrupted. We must be very careful to only pursue close relationships with like-minded, godly people.
The emotional pain and trauma in our hearts and spirits makes us vulnerable and easily influenced at times. That is why we should do all we can to draw closer to our Most High God. As we become more familiar with His character and will by reading His Word, we will be strengthened to avoid the traps that the enemy, Satan, sets for us. One of his common traps is to encourage us to develop intimate relationships with ungodly people with the hope that we can help them change their ungodly way of life. However, the opposite can happen. Our convictions to live a godly life can be compromised even though our intentions were to help the other person.
Guarding our hearts and spirits must be a priority when we are on a healing journey. The inner healing process can take months or years. When emotional pain is triggered during the process, it requires determination on our part to stay as close to the Lord as possible. We cannot allow ungodly relationships to interfere with our needed healing. Satan does not want our broken hearts to be healed, because healed believers are able to fulfill their God-given destiny more effectively. The devil will do everything he can to try to interfere with the healing process, including using ungodly people in our lives to do so. We must not be deceived. Evil company corrupts good habits!
There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.
Romans 8:1 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Romans 8:1-11
This verse is often misquoted, leaving out the condition that we live according to God’s will and not our own. That implies that there is condemnation for those who chose to live according to their fleshly desires, rather than to live according to God’s Word. The Holy Spirit always guides us to make godly choices, but we still have free wills and can ignore Him and the Lord’s will for our lives.
Being spiritually minded—and living according to the Holy Spirit’s directions—brings us life and peace. However, acting upon our own thoughts and desires causes negative, and often damaging, results and does not please our Most High God. There is so much joy in obeying the Lord in every area of our lives. Our godly choices are the proof that we love God and that we are one of His children.
Having a broken heart can be the result of making ungodly choices either because we did not know the Lord at the time, or because we chose to disobey Him. If our decisions contributed to our broken hearts, we should ask our loving, heavenly Father for forgiveness in Jesus’ name. The blood of Jesus will cleanse us from our sins if we have sincerely embraced Him as our Lord and Savior. Living according to the Spirit and not according to fleshly desires is the evidence that we have a genuine relationship with Jesus Christ as our Lord. We can receive healing for our broken hearts as we continue to live in Him!
Now when he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.
1 Samuel 18:1 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: 1 Samuel 18:1-4
This is just one example in Scripture of two people having their souls knit, or tied, together. The soul is often defined as our mind, will and emotions. When the souls of two individuals are knit together, an extremely strong bond is formed that can affect many aspects of their lives. Our minds, wills and emotions can be positively or negatively influenced as the result of soul ties we have developed with those closest to us.
The strongest soul ties—and those that affect our lives the most—are between parents and their children, siblings, spouses, and extremely close friends, like Jonathan and David. Sexual intimacy results in the deepest, and most difficult to break, soul ties. Long after a relationship ends, the emotional pain can continue, in part, due to the existing soul ties.
Brokenhearted people have often been deeply hurt by someone very close to them with whom they have strong soul ties. The emotional pain and trauma is increased as the result of the soul ties between the two people. If someone with whom we have a powerful soul tie does or says something hurtful to us, we may be very wounded. However, if the same thing was said or done by a casual acquaintance, it can be much less painful. The extent of the soul ties with someone determines the level of emotional pain we feel. The healing of our broken hearts involves various kinds of prayer for emotional and spiritual cleansing, including asking God to break some soul ties in Jesus’ name.