For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.
1 Corinthians 13:12 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: 1 Corinthians 13:11-13
Although we may think we see things clearly, we only see things dimly and know only part of what we will eventually know. A weather event of fog is an excellent example of seeing things dimly and in part. Even though we know there is more than we can see, we still cannot see it, because the fog obstructs our vision. No matter how hard we try, we cannot see things that are blocked by the fog.
Understanding the things that happen to us is very similar to fog. Sometimes fog is so thick that it is impossible to see more than ten feet in front of us. If we are in a familiar environment, we may know in part what is beyond what we can see. For instance, we know what houses are in our neighborhood, but on a very foggy day, we may not be able to tell what cars are on the street, or who may be walking down the road. The same is true regarding the future and what we may ever know about the reasons traumatic situations happened to us.
This is where trusting the Lord becomes so crucial. Believing the Word of God is not an option if we want Him to heal our broken hearts. Accepting God’s love and His Son, Jesus, as our personal Lord and Savior is the first step in that direction. Our Most High God has promised that He will use all things for good in believers’ lives (Romans 8:28). We must have faith that He will do that and heal our broken hearts through Jesus whether we can see it through the fog of life, or not.
They will have no fear of bad news;
their hearts are steadfast, trusting in the Lord.
Psalm 112:7 (NIV)
Suggested reading: Psalm 112:6-8
Trusting in the Lord can be difficult when our hearts are broken. The devil will try to use bad news, emotional pain, and trauma in our lives to decrease, or destroy, our trust and faith in the Lord. Broken hearts are not always steadfast. That is why it is so important to receive healing for emotional pain. The very process that can help us is often avoided due to fear and a lack of trust.
Those with broken hearts have difficulty trusting—period. Once we are hurt severely by someone, or something that occurred in our lives, we may be very hesitant to be vulnerable and trust again. Even trusting our Most High God can become a huge problem. However, we must always remember that God works all things for our good if we love Him and have dedicated our lives to following Him and His Son, Jesus. We must strive to be unwavering in believing and trusting the Lord in spite of the pain we are suffering.
The Lord’s tender love will often draw us to come to Him for inner healing. By asking Jesus to release the emotional and spiritual pain that we have been carrying for months, years, or even decades, we will be on the path to having a healed heart. It usually takes time for this to be accomplished completely, but being in the healing process is better than the alternative. Many of our sins may be pain-driven. Therefore, pursuing healing for our broken hearts will help prevent the devil from using the pain in our hearts, minds and spirits to lead us into sin. We must never give up hope of the possibility of being healed. We must be steadfast and trust in the Lord!
‘For I,’ says the LORD, ‘will be a wall of fire all around her, and I will be the glory in her midst.’
Zechariah 2:5 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Zechariah 2:1-5
These verses refer to Jerusalem, but we can apply them to our lives as well. Our Most High God wants each of us to be surrounded by a wall of fire to help protect us from pain and trauma. That wall of fire would be a good wall—a godly boundary—surrounding us with God’s love, peace and joy.
Godly boundaries are good walls. However, painful and traumatic situations happen in our lives that can break down the good walls that the Lord designed to shield us from evil. We tend to develop ungodly, destructive walls as a result. Those detrimental walls can separate us from the love of God and His Son, Jesus. Harmful walls can also prevent us from receiving the healing we need for the emotional, mental, and/or spiritual pain that exist inside us.
We cannot be truly healed unless we allow the finished work that Jesus did on the cross to penetrate the ungodly walls that we have built around our broken hearts and spirits. Jesus will remove the harmful walls as we receive His healing, and He will replace them with godly ones. Asking Jesus to release the pain we are carrying and replace it with His love will help us to develop godly, healthy walls, or boundaries, in our lives. We will then be more able to experience God’s wall of fire and His glory in our midst!
But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin.
1 John 1:7 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: 1 John 1:5-10
Praise the Lord! The blood of Jesus Christ cleanses us from all sin if we walk in the light. However, we must confess our sins in order to be cleansed from them. We should never try to hide sin from the Most High God. He sees and knows everything we have ever done. He wants to forgive us for our sins, but we must first admit our sins to Him. Then we must live according to God’s Word and walk in the light.
God also said that everything hidden—secrets—will be revealed and come to light (Luke 8:17). That includes every sinful thing we have done. We must be brutally honest with God and anyone who is trying to help us receive God’s healing and freedom. Secrets will keep us in bondage and allow the enemy, Satan, to continue to cause havoc in our lives. They also hinder the healing that we need in our hearts and spirits.
It is a process to be healed and set free from past pain and trauma. That process can be seriously obstructed by our lack of truthfulness regarding past or present sins in our lives. We cannot continue to practice known sin and expect to be set free. Confessing our sins to our loving, Heavenly Father, asking for His forgiveness, and doing our best to not repeat those sins is required to receive inner healing. Then, the devil has less opportunity to interfere with the healing of our broken hearts and the Lord’s plan for our lives can be more easily accomplished.
Your sandals shall be iron and bronze;
As your days, so shall your strength be.
Deuteronomy 33:25 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Deuteronomy 33:25-27
As your days, so shall your strength be. God does not fill us today with the strength we will need in ten years when something traumatic happens in our lives, like losing a loved one. He gives us the level of strength we need when we need it. God knows that pain and trauma are part of our earthly existence. He is there to help us when something breaks our hearts.
Some days seem much easier to go through than others. However, on those days when we feel like we do not have the strength to make it one more minute, we must turn to God and ask Him to help us. He says that our strength will equal our days. This promise does not mean that we will breeze through every day. It means that we will be able to survive even the most difficult days with the Lord by our side.
Spiritual and emotional strength is built up over time. As we go through the years, we become more able to stand strong in the midst of pain and trauma. What may have knocked us off-balance in our younger years does not even phase us later in our lives. We become stronger as a result of traumatic experiences if we rely on the Lord to steady us in the storms. Jesus must be our Rock and our Strength for all our days!
Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God! Therefore the world does not know us, because it did not know Him.
1 John 3:1 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: 1 John 3:1-3
As followers of Jesus Christ, we are children of God. What an amazing truth to meditate on and embrace with our hearts, minds and spirits. We are sons and daughters of the Most High God! We have an inheritance as such that is out of this world. Our Most High God has promised us a glorious eternity with Him that we can only imagine if we have genuinely accepted His Son as our Lord and Savior. That is His incredible love for us!
However, when our hearts are broken as a result of abuse, the death of a loved one, divorce, accidents, natural disasters, or any other form of trauma, we may begin to believe that our future will be determined by those extremely painful and traumatic experiences. We may feel like it is who we are, and our outlook can be skewed, because we have accepted the negative labels that accompanied the trauma. Those labels may include victim, abandoned, rejected, or unloved. They can help keep us in bondage and prevent us from receiving freedom from the emotional and spiritual pain.
The trauma is not who we are—it is what happened to us! If Jesus Christ is our Lord and Savior, we are sons and daughters of the Most High God. That is our true identity. We are loved by the Creator of the Universe, the Great Physician, the Lord of Hosts. We are precious in His sight and He wants to heal our broken hearts. We must embrace that truth. God loves us with an incomparable love!
Be angry, but don’t sin — don’t let the sun go down before you have dealt with the cause of your anger;
Ephesians 4:26 (Complete Jewish Bible)
Suggested reading: Ephesians 4:26; Psalm 4:4-5
Be angry? Has God really told us that it is okay to be angry? Yes! However, He qualified that statement by adding the phrase but don’t sin. The Bible clearly gives us examples of times when our Most High God was angry and when His Son, Jesus, was angry. Righteous anger—godly anger—is not sin, but can turn into sin if we let it. We must recognize the difference.
It is absolutely normal to feel anger when someone or something has caused us pain and trauma. In fact, anger is often attached to emotional and spiritual pain in our hearts. However, ungodly anger can grow into bitterness, which can then lead to other destructive emotions if it is not dealt with in our hearts and spirits. It can also cause physical illness. We must be very careful how far we allow the emotion of anger to progress, because we are the ones who will ultimately suffer damage to our hearts, bodies and spirits. We need to avoid letting anger develop into sin. If that has happened, we must ask God to forgive us in Jesus’ name.
Our hearts can even become hardened concerning God if we are not cautious regarding anger. Healing for our broken hearts is more difficult as a result. Hardened hearts turn away from God—the One who can release the pain and heal them. Asking Jesus to release the pain and anger from our hearts and spirits and asking the Holy Spirit to apply His healing balm are part of the inner healing process. Hardened, broken hearts can be healed by the Lord!