Let the lying lips be put to silence,
Which speak insolent things proudly and contemptuously against the righteous.
Psalm 31:18 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Psalm 31:14-20
David experienced the emotional pain caused by people who lied about him. Many brokenhearted people have suffered that pain. It absolutely breaks our hearts and destroys trust when friends—or family members—initiate or repeat lies about us. Satan is the father of lies and his plan to hurt God’s people includes spreading lies about them in order to damage their reputations and decrease their effectiveness for the Lord.
The reality is that lying has almost become acceptable in our world today. Jokes are made about little white lies and they are excused. However, lying lips are in direct opposition to God’s commandments and will. The ten commandments are not suggestions. The Lord included them in His Word because disobeying them is sin and causes incredible amounts of emotional pain and trauma to the one in disobedience as well as to other people. In Matthew 19:18, Jesus answered regarding the commandments to be kept, including not bearing false witness. John 14:6 states that Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. We cannot be followers of Jesus Christ and continue to lie. Lying hurts everyone involved, including the one who is lying! It separates the person who is lying from Almighty God.
Christians are often persecuted through lying lips. David called lying, “The strife of tongues,” in Psalm 31:20. Lying can cause great strife in relationships. The results are always some degree of emotional pain and heartbreak. The good news is that our Most High God will bring about justice on our behalf. He will also comfort us and heal our broken hearts if we will embrace His healing love and peace. Jesus heals the brokenhearted regardless of what caused their hearts to be broken!
I urge you, brothers and sisters, to keep your eyes on those who cause dissensions and create obstacles or introduce temptations [for others] to commit sin, [acting in ways] contrary to the doctrine which you have learned. Turn away from them.
Romans 16:17 (AMP)
Suggested reading: Romans 16:17-20
These verses are a warning from the Lord through Paul for followers of Jesus Christ. We are told to avoid divisive people who try to tempt us to sin and create obstacles in our lives that would prevent, or hinder, us from living according to God’s Word. Those types of people can deceive us if we are not careful. Satan is the mastermind behind their deception and lies. We must be aware of his schemes and avoid being caught in his traps. Knowing God’s Word and instructions to us that help us live godly lives will give us the discernment and wisdom we need to turn away from ungodly people.
Of course, when people are successful in deceiving us in any way, it causes our hearts to be broken. The pain of being deceived by someone we once trusted can be devastating and causes great grief. It is not easy to forgive someone when they have done that to us, but when we are able to do so, forgiving them is part of our healing process.
Isaiah 53:4 says that Jesus has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows, but we must be willing to let Him do that. Asking Jesus to release emotional pain that we are carrying—whatever is safe to release at the time—is an important step in our inner healing. We should also ask the Holy Spirit to fill the voids that are left by that released pain. Once Jesus has released some of the emotional pain, we are more able to forgive and to avoid divisive people in the future.
Be of good courage,
And He shall strengthen your heart,
All you who hope in the Lord.
Psalm 31:24 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Psalm 31:21-24
Broken hearts are weakened hearts. They need healing and strengthening after the emotional pain and trauma that left them in weakened, vulnerable conditions. Those with broken hearts often lose hope and become fearful. That is the reality of the effects of traumatic situations such as physical abuse, spiritual abuse, emotional abuse, mental abuse, verbal abuse, molestation, rape, the death of a loved one, divorce, accidents and natural disasters. However, there is hope!
The Lord wants us to receive healing and freedom from the pain and trauma we have suffered. He wants us to be encouraged by the promise that He will strengthen our hearts as we hope in Him! The courage that He is able to give us is not based on our circumstances, but on His everlasting love and promises. As we love the Lord in response to His great love for us, He will be our sanctuary in times of terrible trauma.
Our Most High God is good all the time. He is our greatest advocate and wants only the best for us. However, we must allow Him to strengthen and heal our broken hearts. We need to submit to His plan for our lives, including His provision for our inner emotional healing. He will not do it against our free wills. Surrendering to the Lord by accepting Jesus as our Lord and Savior, hoping in the Lord, and following Him in obedience are essential steps on our path to true freedom. God’s peace and joy will fill us as we hope in Him.
For godly sorrow produces repentance leading to salvation, not to be regretted; but the sorrow of the world produces death.
2 Corinthians 7:10 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: 2 Corinthians 7:8-11
This verse describes the outcomes of godly sorrow as opposed to worldly sorrow. Godly sorrow produces repentance. It leads us to freedom from sin and ungodly behavior. Godly sorrow causes us to change our way of thinking to line up with the Lord’s thoughts and His Word. Only godly sorrow breaks our hearts for our actions that break God’s heart. It causes us emotional pain that, in turn, leads us to do whatever is needed to change our behavior so that it does not happen again.
However, worldly sorrow only produces death. When a person just says they are sorry for something because they wish it never happened, that does not cause them to turn to God. Their desire is to try to lessen the consequences for their sinful behavior. There is no readiness to make things right with the Lord, just an attempt to make the consequences disappear. That worldly sorrow results in repetitive and habitual sin, which leads to spiritual death, and separation from God. Broken hearts and shattered relationships result from this insincere sorrow.
The Complete Jewish Bible says, “Pain handled in God’s way produces a turning from sin to God which leads to salvation.” Godly sorrow is very painful. We are grieved when we understand how much our sin has hurt our loving, heavenly Father. That pain is beneficial to us, because it produces a good change in our behavior and lives. Godly sorrow brings us to a genuine place of accountability. Jesus died and rose again to offer us the opportunity to repent and to receive healing and freedom. Repentance is essential for the healing of our broken hearts.
Here is what ADONAI says:
“Stand at the crossroads and look;
ask about the ancient paths,
‘Which one is the good way?’
Take it, and you will find rest for your souls.
But they said, ‘We will not take it.’
Jeremiah 6:16 (Complete Jewish Bible)
Suggested reading: Jeremiah 6:16-19
Those with broken hearts long for rest for their souls. Our souls (minds, wills and emotions) can become very weary as the result of painful and traumatic circumstances in our lives. The Lord provided a way, or path, for us to take to receive that rest we so desperately need. However, many people chose to reject His ways and they suffer the harmful consequences of their choices as a result.
Obedience to Almighty God is not optional for a sincere follower of Jesus Christ if we want to receive His peace and joy in our souls. If He really is our Lord, we will be happy to obey Him and His instructions to us in His Word. We must take God’s warnings seriously. Disobedience to the Lord will only bring disaster on us. Deuteronomy 28 addresses the blessings that come into our lives as the result of obeying the Most High God. That chapter also warns of the misery that we will suffer if we disobey the Lord. It is our choice.
Receiving healing for our broken hearts requires our participation by obeying the Lord and taking the godly path that leads to freedom. That path starts with accepting His free gift of salvation through the birth, death and resurrection of His Son, Jesus Christ. Then we must seek God’s will for our specific need for inner emotional healing. The Lord loves us so much that He will direct us to the right path for our healing and freedom. However, it is still our choice whether or not to take it, but taking the godly path will result in rest for our souls.
And above all things have fervent love for one another, for “love will cover a multitude of sins.”
1 Peter 4:8 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: 1 Peter 4:1-8
Peter was addressing Christians in this verse. He emphasized the importance of this statement by saying, “And above all things.” His instruction to Christians to have fervent love for one another—above all things—is remarkable. It must have been an issue in those days, just as it is today. Christians can often cause other Christians incredible emotional and spiritual pain. That is a very sad reality.
However, if we follow Peter’s and Jesus’ directions, which are the same regarding loving one another, many broken hearts could be prevented. The pain and trauma suffered by Christians and caused by other Christians can be some of the most devastating to endure, because we are supposed to fervently love, not hurt, each other. The good news is that Jesus can and will heal our broken hearts regardless of the situation, or people, involved in breaking them.
The second part of this verse says, “Love will cover a multitude of sins.” That is a quote from Proverbs 10:12. Notice that it does not say that love will cover all sins! Many followers of Jesus use this verse to excuse their sins and expect other Christians to do so as well based on this verse. That is not God’s intention, nor the best for His children. It only leads to rampant sin and numerous broken hearts. If we truly love someone, we will not intentionally sin against them, or deliberately do things that will break their hearts. We will treat them with love and never make excuses for our sins. Sincere apologies, sorrow and repentance for our sins help heal others’ broken hearts!
So I said, “Oh, that I had wings like a dove!
I would fly away and be at rest.”
Psalm 55:6 (NKJV)
Suggested reading: Psalm 55:4-8
When David wrote these verses, he was very weary. He said that his heart was severely pained within him. He wished he had wings like a dove so that he could fly away and be at rest. He wanted to hasten his escape from the windy storm and tempest. He needed rest from the pain and trauma that he was going through. Does that sound familiar?
Our broken hearts long for rest, but not just any form of rest. We were created to rest in the Lord! Our relationships with Father God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit give us the strength we need to face, and not run away from, extremely painful and traumatic circumstances. However, we—being human and having our limits—still need a break to rest from the chaos of life. We were never meant to endure ongoing emotional pain and trauma without any relief.
Working non-stop or overworking, whether for pay or volunteering, will only cause the emotional and spiritual pain to fester. The Lord told us to rest in His Word. That is why it is so important that we take part in godly, restful and restorative activities such as spending time alone with the Lord, reading the Bible, listening to praise and worship music, and prayer. We must avail ourselves of the healing rest that the Lord offers to us. Not getting enough rest will result in a total lack of peace and joy. Desperation can take root and we can become extremely anxious without proper rest. Broken hearts need godly relaxation and rest for the healing process to occur!